Two hundred years ago, a man could challenge another man to a duel if he thought his honour had been compromised. They would agree on a time, place, and weapon. It was usually a fight to the death. All over this issue of honour. Seem excessive?

Integrity is something that seems to have slipped the mind of 21st century society. Like dueling, you may sometimes wonder if it is a thing of the past. This generation has often been referred to as the “options” generation, where people will wait to see who will give them the best option, rather than committing to one course of action.

The RSVP as an etiquette, meaning “please respond”, originates from France but was adopted by posh English society at the end of the 18th century. It was considered very bad manners not to RSVP, and that was when you had to send a formal reply via snail mail!

Now with Facebook events and other online groups, all it takes is the click of a button or a text message and people are still finding it too much trouble. I’ve definitely been guilty of not RSVP’ing from time to time, but it’s important not to lose our sense of integrity, and a great starting point is with RSVP’s.

We’ve all heard the phrase “My word is my bond,” and what if that were true? Don’t we want that to be said of us? Now this may seem difficult or inconvenient, and maybe it is, but it’s important to have a heart that wants to do well by other people.

According to the Oxford Dictionary, ‘integrity’ means “the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles.” Integrity is being honest in the way you deal with people, not cheating, bribing, or trying to get out of something having done the least amount of work possible. (That sound familiar to anyone?) Integrity is certainly not always the fun option, but it is the right one, because having character glorifies God.

Having integrity has many benefits:

1) It builds a culture of trust around you

2) People know that you’re reliable and therefore are more likely to come to you for help when they need it

3) You will be entrusted with more things

4) Most importantly, it honours God

The bible says in Proverbs 11:3, “The integrity of the upright guides them, but the crookedness of the treacherous destroys them” (ESV). God gives us the bible as a fool-proof “how-to” guide (and yes, it is still true and relevant for today) and as Christians we’d basically be crazy not to use it.

So next time you say you’re going to do something, think about the culture that you’re building around you.

Sincerely, Lil